Dating 101

How Do We Know When A Relationship Has A Future?

So when we do meet someone new, how do we know when a bright future is on the horizon' Furthermore, if we think we have it, how do we really know'

In many instances, we all are 'gun shy' after a short-or long-term relationship, because being hurt or feeling bad is not anoption.

This stinging feeling tends to guide us as we clamor forsomething new or fresh. It's as if the bricks and mortar aresuddenly out and there is a new fortress built convenientlyaround your heart.

So when we do meet someone new, how do we know when a bright future is on the horizon' Furthermore, if we thinkwe have it, how do we really know'

The heart can be deceptive and initially in a relationship, itcan be very lustful swaying the mind to a sort of naturalhigh. This period is just that, a period that both people gothrough that intentionally attempts to highlight yourpositives and suppress your negatives towards theperspective mate.

We all want to put our best foot forward in any givensituation whether it's landing a special mate or a good job.However, when your worst foot inevitably takes place ofyour best one is when the real test commences.

In order to properly judge another, one must be able toaccept judging themselves!

None of us are perfect and everyone has flaws, but to whatdegree can we accept them not only in others, butourselves'

If we all received a piece of paper with a large T on it, andon either side it listed the pros and cons as the averageperson would perceive positives and negatives, we wouldmost certainly have a 'leg up' in the filtering mode.

Most everyone filters through specific traits and qualitieswhen dating anyone to gauge compatibility and get a betterhandle on their odds. So when your filter gets clogged upafter a certain amount of time with their 'personalluggage' as most call it, then it's time to move on, right'

Well, that depends on you obviously....

These negative aspects usually are not revealed until sometype of commitment has been agreed upon by both people. Then, the facade and veneer of 'look, I have so manypositives and I'm so fun and cool to be around', evaporatesand real life sets in.

It's a deal; or it's deal breaker time.....

When all the chips have fallen and the proverbialprobationary period of lustful highs comes to an screechingend; a couple is left with what they should have came intothe relationship with in the first place.........themselves!

An assessment of sorts or a comprehensive evaluation isundertaken in some segregated part of your mind and theconversation is as follows:

'Is this man or woman worth my time' Are we going tomake each other better for being with each other, ......

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